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Going forward. Will I be diagnosed?
by evevt (evevt)
at November 4th, 2015 (03:50 pm)

So, yesterday I talked with my fiancee and confirmed that I considered transition. I will now be seeking a gender therapist. Now, I wonder if I'll actually get diagnosed. I do not suffer from dysphoria (or very mildly), am not girly or effeminate in any way. The only thing is that I would feel more at home in a female body. What do you guys think?

Uncomfortable with some aspects...
by evevt (evevt)
at September 14th, 2015 (10:07 am)

I'm new here, and quite new in all this transgenderism and identity stuff. I still can't define what I am as no term seem to fit me. Everything feels off. I joined this community so I could share, and get to understand myself better, maybe make some friends that would only know this side of me, and get some advice on what I am uncomfortable about.

What I can say is how I actually feel: like I have a second superimposed body that is female, and that feels like it is the real me, or rather, an upgraded me. I still feel comfortable with my body (no dysphoria), but whenever I have positive emotions (joy, love, mostly), I feel this second skin quite vividly.

I have thought about transitioning, but I have many concerns, once of which feels superficial: I am afraid that I wouldn't turn up as beautiful as I feel I would be...

Amanda [userpic]
Some good news
by Amanda (unisagi)
at June 24th, 2015 (11:08 am)

Mood: hopeful

From NCTE: "the U.S. Office of Personnel Management (the agency that administers health benefits for Federal employees and retirees) issued a carrier letter to their insurance plans instructing them that they can no longer maintain blanket exclusions of transition-related care.

http://transequality.org/sites/default/files/images/blog/FEHB%20CL%202015-12%20Covered%20Benefits%20for%20Gender%20Transition%20Services.pdf "

How many think this will be the first step toward forcing insurance plans to remove the blanket exclusion for everybody?

drewbiee02 [userpic]
Transition fund
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at June 17th, 2015 (11:51 pm)

Hey everyone so I am trying to begin my transition but I'm my current financial situation I cannot do that. So I am kindly asking this great communit for help. I do plan on giving back once I have the ability but for now I need your help! Thanks guys!


ME [userpic]
Trans Community Survey 2015
by ME (raid_iink)
at May 25th, 2015 (08:45 am)

In case you weren't already aware there is a survey for the trans community going on. I've added links for background information.

https://www.facebook.com/events/825914984154730/ or http://heyevent.com/event/qafcjijgin3mqa/transgender-community-data-survey-2015

It appears you have to be signed in to see the Facebook event so... YMMV


crossposted to ftm

EDIT: I am not associated with the survey I am just posting because I thought it might interest users.

drewbiee02 [userpic]
Night depression
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at May 21st, 2015 (01:09 pm)

Does anyone ever get the feeling at night when you take your packer out and your binder off that your never going to be who you really want and it just makes you sad like that right now your trying to live a lie or something. Let me know if you get feelings like this. I hope I'm not the only one!

drewbiee02 [userpic]
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at May 11th, 2015 (04:43 pm)

Had anyone or does anyone know someone who has gone to Thailand to get surgery? Heard it's cheaper there and that American doctors go there to learn from them. If you have any information if you could comment or send me a message that would be great!

alice_voronova [userpic]
"Trans Girl Diaries" Archive
by alice_voronova (alice_voronova)
at May 9th, 2015 (11:19 pm)

Hi everyone!
I suppose some of you remember such a webcomic as Trans Girl Diaries (transgirldiaries.com) by Evelyn Poor. I've crushed with its liveliness, laughed and cried when I've been reading it for the first time. Recently I tried to read it once again but unfortunately the site was suspended. There are a lot of scattered strips of the comic on the Internet but I want to find the full archive. So if you have any idea where I might find it, I would greatly appreciate it!

drewbiee02 [userpic]
New here
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at May 6th, 2015 (09:26 pm)

Hey everyone I'm new here and looking for some friends that I can talk with while going through my transition. It would be great if yall could help me out!! I would really appreciate it and of course will add you back!

drewbiee02 [userpic]
First counseling appt
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at May 6th, 2015 (09:11 pm)

So today I made my first appointment with a counselor! I'm kinda nervous but also excited to get this whole thing going!!

drewbiee02 [userpic]
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at April 29th, 2015 (04:03 pm)

Whats up guys check me out on youtube!!!


It's about me and my gf, my transition, and other stuff we can think of!!

lectras_mind [userpic]
Getting HRT... When I have a transphobic payee.
by lectras_mind (lectras_mind)
at April 14th, 2015 (12:47 pm)

So good news, and bad news. Good news: I can finally live alone in something like 2-5 months from now. No more living with my parents whose constant presence, and surveillance has been making me unable to transition at all for countless years now... It's the only place I can afford to live, I am disabled. I don't have much choice about where I live. For the first time in years, I'll be able to at least interact over the internet without eavesdropping, dress however I want in my own home /etc/.

The bad news is... Both my parents are very transphobic especially my mom. She's a radical fundamentalist Christian, and she's said countless things that are homophobic or transphobic. My own father also said that my dream is his nightmare when it comes to medical transition, so I know he can't be reasoned with... My mother is also my payee unfortunately.

So with all that taken into context, it would appear, I only have one choice to manage this all- medically transition, without socially transitioning. It's the only solution I can come up with, to balance between treating my physical dysphoria which by the way is almost exclusively physical, with the very... Delicate situation my life is in, money wise. It's the only compromise I can think of, that won't make me extremely dysphoric, and also won't deprive me of basic needs.

And yes I'm aware... That estrogenizing my body, and getting rid of testosterone markers on it, while still socially remaining male could result in me encountering some pretty ugly prejudice, especially considering I've already been frequently assumed to be a cis woman even without HRT. Probably because of me having a very gracile build, not having big muscles, having nearly waist length hair, being very short, wearing clothes that come across as gender neutral to many, and not having a very deep voice, I've already been mistreated/laughed at, when all I did was wear concealer to hide my unwanted facial hair shadow, because that was literally all it took for people to code me as female instead of male.

And I know, that HRT would make that type of mistreatment even worse, but... Frankly because of the situation I'm in, it seems there's nothing else I can do- whatever mistreatment I might face from all that, is nothing compared to the agony of no medical transition or not having my own home or whatever. So anyways... Here's my options. And my parents... And me being dependent on them/still having to literally basically be their neighbor, is, the primary reason for the whole trying to avoid social transition thing.

A. Acquire HRT/estrogen/T-Blockers without my payee/mother who will live right in a unit underneath me finding out... Is this even possible?
B. Find some political allies or something like that, willing to charge my payee with a hate crime or something akin to that, if as my payee she refuses to cooperate with allowing me medical transition.
C. Change who my payee is.

Help please?

drewbiee02 [userpic]
Negative side effects of T
by drewbiee02 (drewbiee02)
at April 8th, 2015 (03:55 pm)

I noticed that this is something that no one really talks about. So before I start T I would like to hear from people who have taken it what their negative side effects were. This would be a good thing for people new to transition to hear and to think about. Thanks everyone!

by amayaashlynn (amayaashlynn)
at March 7th, 2015 (12:14 pm)

Mood: hopeful

I just want to say hello community. I look forward to asking questions, taking questions, and making new friends in and around the Seattle area. I currently live in Suquamish.

Amy [userpic]
by Amy (caloris)
at January 15th, 2015 (07:46 pm)

Since my last post, I visited the Clinical Psychologist my GP referred me to. She has some experience with the subject and agreed. She sent the GP a letter recommending that I get my ID corrected.
Based off that, the GP wrote the letter needed by the Australian Passport office to alter the gender on a passport.
I’ve known the GP for years (school friends with Dad), so he also did the photo guarantor stuff. He was hesitant to correct the letter (he entered the wrong number on the first one and had to do it again) to match that photo with a female passport, thinking it would cause “issues” with some places given where I was traveling.
Between hotel and airline staff and security and border officials in Australia, US, UK, Qatar, UAE, France, Belgium, China, Hong Kong, Japan and Singapore, I must have dealt with over 800 different people who had to view ID and/or name at some stage. Only a handful of people showed any confusion over the name (all airline staff). The worst “issue” was the hotel in Tokyo altering the title on my reservation from Miss to Mr when I checked in (despite my passport saying female).
One Qantas flight attendant noticed the “difference” on the manifest and rather then question it, asked how I would like to be addressed. :D

Before I left on my holiday, my parents “demanded” that I leave a copy of my itinerary. They had noticed that I had started getting “official” mail with my preferred name and questioned it. They were away when I left, so I left a note with the itinerary explaining that yes, I had changed my name and what was happening.
Mum normally sends me text messages when I’m away, so I had been expecting to get a message a week or so into the trip. Never got anything until the morning I returned to Australia trying to organise picking me up at the airport. When I saw them, they said nothing about it. After dropping me off at home, they went shopping so I was at home alone for a while. When I was going through my pile of mail, I found a note from them. The note indicated that they accepted the whole thing, but it hasn’t been mentioned since. So they are aware of it and seem to accept it, but seem to want me to discuss it first.
I don’t want to discuss it with them. There is nothing to discuss. I just want them to be aware of it. ie, “This is the situation. This is what’s happening. Period.”

I still have the issue of telling others, such as extended family, siblings, work…
I had intended to tell the rest of the family over Christmas (at least about the name change. They’d likely work out anything else from that). Of course, every time I attempted to say something, I was interrupted or spoken over.
Next chance, at least with some of the family, is over the Australia Day long weekend.

Still don’t know about telling work at this stage. The HR situation is unknown. There hasn’t been a stable store manager for the last 13 months, and there are people at work who think the entire concept of transgender is quite funny.
Of course, it seems that any time something happens, half the city knows about it within a few weeks. I see customers at work (even when I’m there as a customer) who I don’t know, who sure seem to know me. I can only assume that they work with Mum in some way (eg, girl guides).
Then, my sister is also a guide leader. Someone on the front end at work goes to guides with my sister. My sister finds out about this, she’ll tell that person from work (it will come up somehow)... within a week, everyone at work will have heard rumours about it.

I saw the Psychologist in August. I have to see her again soon to get hormones (well, a referral to an endocrinologist). Between my holiday and the busy Christmas period at work, I haven’t been able to get back there, but I’m not sure if I should wait until I’ve be able to tell more of the family. But I would like to get started on hormones soon...

Speaking of hormones, how quickly do they start making noticeable changes to appearance (eg measurements)? Days? Weeks? Months? How major/drastic are said changes?
I have possible plans coming up that such changes may impact (possible trip to Anime Expo and next round the world holiday for 4-6 weeks during September-November).

liver [userpic]
need a sleep study, what can I expect re: privacy/binding/etc
by liver (the_infector)
at January 6th, 2015 (11:43 am)

I need to schedule a sleep study but don't know what to expect in regards to what sort of environment I'll be sleeping in, how much privacy I'll have, whether I can avoid having anybody see me without my binder (I don't mean sleep in it, but like, being covered up/not having to move around once it's off).

anonymous1101 [userpic]
Trans Lifeline - a trans suicide hotline run by trans people, for trans people
by anonymous1101 (anonymous1101)
at November 26th, 2014 (01:20 pm)

Just discovered something excellent: a trans suicide hotline run by trans people for trans people.

It can be found here: http://www.translifeline.org/

This project is in desperate need of volunteers, so please check it out, spread the word, and consider volunteering.

farrentroy [userpic]
Hello Everyone!
by farrentroy (farrentroy)
at November 21st, 2014 (06:44 pm)

My name is Farren and I have for the past few years tried my very best to fit in genderwise. I grew my hair out, started wearing dresses and tried to be "pretty". With every step I felt like I lost part of myself but wasnt sure what that something was. This year was different but I still didn't understand why and it started with a name change. I gravitated towards a male name still not getting it. Its in the past few months that Ive started to understand myself more. I found words to describe what I feel on the inside! I started wearing what ever the hell I want and now rock a popadour. I feel like Im finding my center and it seems to be somewhere in between. I still feel a little lost though and hope to find a few friends who understand what I am going through. Thanks for reading!

thegrandefacade [userpic]
Are there answers for me?
by thegrandefacade (thegrandefacade)
at November 20th, 2014 (08:33 pm)

Mood: frustrated

Very new here, and in the whole search for answers all together.

45yr old bio-female. Have lived my life as a bi woman and mostly on the straight side after marriage and kids (for reasons mainly due to ex/kids). Feminine in outward appearance.  But the kicker is I have always wanted to be male. I have always felt that what I do is play a part. I play it well. I've got decades of experience.

So now I've reached an age and stage in life where my responsibilities to others and their expectations of me are no longer such a big factor. I have looked into transitioning many times throughout my life, but now seems the time where it could actually be possible.

But finding answers or even someone who's been there, done that at my age, and who went from a feminine persona to assuming their male form is proving VERY difficult.  Is there anyone out there that can help? I've lived as a woman for so long, and I have so many questions on transitioning after having built such a solid female persona.

the broken radio was playing suicide [userpic]
RIP Leslie Feinberg
by the broken radio was playing suicide (volare)
at November 18th, 2014 (10:40 pm)

Transgender Pioneer and Stone Butch Blues Author Leslie Feinberg Has Died
She was a pioneer in trans and lesbian issues, workers rights, and intersectionality long before anyone could define the phrase. Her partner, Minnie Bruce Pratt, and family offered us this obituary.

BY Advocate.com Editors
November 17 2014 11:17 AM ET

Leslie Feinberg, who identified as an anti-racist white, working-class, secular Jewish, transgender, lesbian, female, revolutionary communist, died on November 15. She succumbed to complications from multiple tick-borne co-infections, including Lyme disease, babeisiosis, and protomyxzoa rheumatica, after decades of illness.

She died at home in Syracuse, NY, with her partner and spouse of 22 years, Minnie Bruce Pratt, at her side. Her last words were: “Remember me as a revolutionary communist.”

Feinberg was the first theorist to advance a Marxist concept of “transgender liberation,” and her work impacted popular culture, academic research, and political organizing.

Her historical and theoretical writing has been widely anthologized and taught in the U.S. and international academic circles. Her impact on mass culture was primarily through her 1993 first novel, Stone Butch Blues, widely considered in and outside the U.S. as a groundbreaking work about the complexities of gender. Sold by the hundreds of thousands of copies and also passed from hand-to-hand inside prisons, the novel has been translated into Chinese, Dutch, German, Italian, Slovenian, Turkish, and Hebrew (with her earnings from that edition going to ASWAT Palestinian Gay Women).

In a statement at the end of her life, she said she had “never been in search of a common umbrella identity, or even an umbrella term, that brings together people of oppressed sexes, gender expressions, and sexualities” and added that she believed in the right of self-determination of oppressed individuals, communities, groups, and nations.

She preferred to use the pronouns she/zie and her/hir for herself, but also said: “I care which pronoun is used, but people have been disrespectful to me with the wrong pronoun and respectful with the right one. It matters whether someone is using the pronoun as a bigot, or if they are trying to demonstrate respect.”
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Eustace Clarence Scrubb [userpic]
Being trans in academia - blog
by Eustace Clarence Scrubb (eustacecscrubb)
at November 9th, 2014 (09:15 am)

There's a new blog asking for submissions from trans persons in academia: http://transinacademia.wordpress.com/

So far, just a couple of posts, but it might be worth watching if this is a career relevant to you. (Cross-posted to ftm.)

Eustace Clarence Scrubb [userpic]
Living in Sinagpore
by Eustace Clarence Scrubb (eustacecscrubb)
at October 23rd, 2014 (10:00 am)

There is the possibility I'll relocate to Singapore for a job. I'm reading mixed opinions about life there for LGBT people. The relevant facts about me: bisexual, heteroromantic, post top surgery, passport and IDs all have "M" but not my birth certificate. I use testopel implants and would like to continue that rather than do injections. I'd also like to have a hysto and meta, but haven't managed either yet. I'm private about my gender history, consistently read as male, and don't generally look to socialize with queer/LGBT persons (I have friends with various identities, but don't want/need queer community).

Since male homosexuality is still technically illegal there (though apparently the law is rarely enforced) I'm a little worried about being bisexual. However, as I understand it, the LGB and T are very distinct communities there, and if anything, where trans people transition into stereotypically masculine/feminine presentations, they do okay.

Any insight? PMs are okay. I don't want to disclose details about the possible employment, but it would be for an institution which is part Singapore and part US in its management.

Injection cycle/dosage uptake
by nowalady9 (nowalady9)
at October 19th, 2014 (12:43 pm)

Hi, I'm new and I'm not sure where my post went to (Subject: Injection cycle/dosage uptake). I think it went into my 'journal' not sure. Can anyone help?

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Tagging the Day of Remembrance
by Laura Anne Seabrook (laura_seabrook)
at October 19th, 2014 (04:11 pm)

November the 20th is THE TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE, and annual event in which those transgendered persons either murdered or driven to suicide in the last 12 months are remembered. Events are organised around the globe to commemorate this. One of those events is the Transgender Day of Remembrance Web Comic Project (currently run by myself).

Participating contributors draw and publish a relevant webcomic or image for the day (or equivalent date, depending on schedule) with links to other contributors and/or the archive. The main thing is to educate the readership of each person's webcomic or blog about the issues listed above. In the past these have come from webcomics, submissions on DeviantArt, Blogs and forums, and elsewhere as the participants determine appropriate.

This year is a bit different from previous years because a number of social networks, such as Facebook, Google+ and DeviantArt, have added tagging to posts in their network, bringing them into line with networks such as Twitter. This is usually a hash symbol (#) followed by some text (withoutspaces) as a tag. For example, #transgender.  This means that if you're posting (without or without an image) about the Day of Remembrance, you can now add tags to make finding that post easier for people who are looking for it.

Here are my suggestions for tags relating to the Transgender Day of Remembrance:
   #tdor[year]  (e.g. #tdor2014)

Adding each of these to a post will help others find it, whether they're looking for a particular year, or in general.
Just a suggestion.

Any gender fluid people? Also, transgender themed manga and anime.
by jemini42 (jemini42)
at September 30th, 2014 (07:47 am)

So, up until recently, I used to call myself "androgynous with slight transgender leanings" as I had occasional brief longings to be the oposite of my birth gender at times but still strongly identified with my birth gender at others but most of the time just felt like I was a perfect blend of both. A few weeks back though, I discovered this thing called "gender fluid" as part of the trans community and realized upon reading about it that this fit the way I was feeling far better than the term "androgynous" ever could.

I wanted to see if there was anyone else who was part of the community who was also this way. It is not something you hear about often, I guess it is not so well spread as the more common presentation of people who are 100% the oposite of their birth gender.

Anyway, since having reassignment surgury is really not an appealing option to me (my gender identity disagrees with my body half the time now, and it will still disagree half the time afterwards, so what's the point?) I have mostly found my sollice in Japanese entertainment, I often find myself wondering if there is a significant number of gender fluid people among the manga artists, because there seem to be a good few series dealing with this subject, but absolutely nill everywhere else.

Of course everyone probably knows about Ranma 1/2. If you were like me though and absolutely adored the gender-flipping concept and envied the title character for having such a blessing, but were turned off by how immature the series' view of gender identity was, then you might find a series by the name of "Futaba no Change" will be more to your liking. Same gender-flipping concept, but a far more mature tone and expression of gender identity.

Other good series on the trans-gender subject include a real hidden gem by the name of Kaiba, a 12 episode series that is absolutely artistically fantastic in its implimentation. It is about a distopian future in witch everyone's minds are downloaded to computer chips, and they can transfer to a different body at any time, and one of the very most touching parts of the entire series is when the main character, by a series of circumstances beyond his control, finds himself getting transfered to a female body in witch he spends the majority of the first half of the series. I don't want to give away too much more, but take my word for it that this series is absolutely brilliant. I would highly recommend it even if it didn't have the appealing transgender aspect.

And just to round it off, another just plain rediculous one on the level of Ranma 1/2 by the name of "Ichinisen ni nachitara." It involves a highschool teenager getting hit by a truck and recieving brutal injuries that almost kill him, and his life is saved by a woman who happens to be a "super scientist," (this series uses science as though it were magic) who.... apparently.... errr..... saves his life by turning him into a 7 year old girl. Yeah, it didn't make much sense to me either. Read it for the transgender aspect, and forget about all the other rediculous stuff the same way you did with Ranma 1/2.

(EDIT: something that bears mention as brought up in a later comment by Healer, I am not saying Japan might be some kind of paridice for transgender people. Actually, Japanese media seems to reflect more of a silent precursor to a Japanese civil rights movement to me. Right now, they treat anyone who is not a cys-gendered heterosexual Japanese person horribly. The art that is made sympathetic to trans people or people of different ethnicities seems to be more of an awareness raiser hoping for social change. Just needed to say that to prevent anyone from getting the wrong idea about Japan.)

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