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Going forward. Will I be diagnosed?
by evevt (evevt)
at November 4th, 2015 (03:50 pm)

So, yesterday I talked with my fiancee and confirmed that I considered transition. I will now be seeking a gender therapist. Now, I wonder if I'll actually get diagnosed. I do not suffer from dysphoria (or very mildly), am not girly or effeminate in any way. The only thing is that I would feel more at home in a female body. What do you guys think?


Posted by: Maura the Art Nun (sistawendy)
Posted at: November 4th, 2015 09:47 pm (UTC)

You sound like me seven years ago. A lot of us, including me, have at some point felt that we somehow weren't trans enough. If you've made it this far though - and telling my wife was to this day the hardest thing I've ever done - you're plenty trans enough.

And I still think I look terrible in a lot of photographs. :)

Posted by: evevt (evevt)
Posted at: November 4th, 2015 09:52 pm (UTC)

Thanks for the cheering. I'm kinda lucky that, if I go through this, I should not look too bad :P I'm already short and have rounder softer features.

For the 'knowing' or 'feeling it', it kinda came suddenly, about 5 years ago. I have been introspecting and hinting at it to some close ones since then, so my girlfriend already expected that...

Just what is it they take into consideration for the diagnosis?

Edited at 2015-11-04 09:55 pm (UTC)

Posted by: Maura the Art Nun (sistawendy)
Posted at: November 4th, 2015 09:58 pm (UTC)

To tell you the truth, I don't know. I've never read the entry about us in any edition of the DSM.

Posted by: evevt (evevt)
Posted at: November 6th, 2015 12:57 pm (UTC)

How did your wife take it? How were you able to cope with it? For us, it seems we'll have to take it one step at a time, because otherwise she'll freak out. Hell, she already is freaking a bit...

Posted by: Maura the Art Nun (sistawendy)
Posted at: November 6th, 2015 03:58 pm (UTC)

In a word, poorly. You see, I'd been telling her I wouldn't transition ever since I'd met her, about fifteen years. She said, "You son of a bitch," and cried for two hours.

Those first few months I spent sleeping in the same bed with someone who hated me. It was hard. Over the next few years she went through the classic stages of grieving, though, and she's in a much better place now. As long as I don't screw it up, our divorce should be final by the end of the year.

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